Happiness
Happiness is a choice, not a result.
Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy.
No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy.
Your happiness will not come to you.
It can only come from you.
What is happiness after all? Is it being content? But content with what? Success? Money? Does happiness mean you have a smile plastered on your face throughout the day? Does a person keep joking or making light of situations just to be under the illusion of being happy?
These are complex questions with no ready answers. It is very easy to feel unhappy as there are plenty of triggers throughout the day. You wake up late, you miss your exercise, the toast gets burnt, you miss your train, your boss is unhappy about your performance, you are unhappy with your performance at home and office, the stock market crashes, the market rises but your stocks don't, the girl you dig does not even know of your existence, the vegetable is too salty... to put a long story short, our expectations are rarely met. One of the ways to deal with life is to have control over your expectations. We usually expect more and deliver less in many matters. Taper, evaluate and recalibrate your expectations and one would come to terms with the various situations one tackles everyday.
A lot of behavioural changes and realignment would be necessary. A SWOT analysis will also help. However, one can never accept or make a honest analysis of the self as our mind projects false impressions about self and we usually aren't critical of ourselves. It is always the other person's fault. It is always your bad luck.
The problem is we take ourselves too seriously. We are here on this earth for a blink of an eye. Soon we will be gone and after a few years no one would miss you. No one would recall your work after a few generations. So why not train our minds to be happy in whichever situation life throws at us? Apart from personal tragedies, almost everything can be looked at in a humourous way. Never think too much of yourself as there are bound to be many people who are better looking, intelligent and talented than you are. One should strive to be empathetic. We should share our happiness with others and dilute the sorrows of others. Just doing one good deed everyday makes the tedium and drudgery to away.
Happiness from within is what Buddha advocates. After your expectations are realigned, one would be happy from within. It is the expectations of ourselves and of others which create a humdrum environment for us. It is as if we strive to be dissatisfied!
Comments
Post a Comment